Giving-Up is Wayyyy Harder than Trying!

What separates the “Haves” and the “have-nots”?  I was asking myself this question and reminiscing over my own past, the self-help books/tapes, both teaching and motivational, I have had the experience to read… AND most importantly the 100s of people I have gotten to know recently within the past few years.

What separates 2 (seemingly identical) people, who for all intents and purposes are both healthy, equally book smart, with simaliar goals in life.  The classic story, 1 becomes a Success while the other mearly eaks through life, never achieving his/her Goals or Dreams.

I have always heard that when a person becomes successful their circle of friends shrinks to associate with his new thoughts and lifestyle.  The old saying, “You can’t soar with the eagles if your are hanging around with turkeys!”

AND the reverse…  Look at your 3 closest friends to determine your future net income!

After I moved to Tampa Bay, Florida back in January 2001 (from NH), I bounced around from job to job.  Not because the jobs were too hard or I was lazy but for the simple fact I was a bad employee, never once was I fired!  I simply HATED working for someone else… AND I was very bad at it!

(I hope YOU are a terrible employee as well!)  Symptoms are lack of motivation to perform at work, dreading Monday morning, and the cold sweat you get from realizing you are 20,30,40,50,60 years old and are not living the life you want! YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOUR FUTURE, And change it NOW!

Do not mistake this for just being lazy, unmotivated to do anything, being ONLY a dreamer (w/out action).

I made a friend just after moving to Florida, and we became best-friends quick.  We would always hang-out together, laugh at the same things, and act in similar ways.  Eventually it got to the point we knew what the other was thinking and even going to say.  His name was Karl Hess and be were best buds.

However there was 1 major difference in our thought processes.  (LIKE YOU) I AM a dreamer AND A doer… however Karl was simply a Dreamer.  This 1 seemingly little trait was eventually the cause of our friendhip doward spiral..

I always had big dreams.  HUGE Dreams for not only myself, but the lives of my FRIENDS and future family.  One of my favorite things to do is to surround myself with pictures of what I want to achieve (Dream Board)  AND visit those things! (Maserati car lots, fancy model homes, ect)

You must put ACTION behind your words!

Karl never wanted to do this.  He only “talked the talk.”  He thought it was stupid, so for the most part, I did these things alone.  He would “bust my balls” (as buddies do).  “You’ll never have that!”  “Quit fooling”  “Ya right!” “Come on lets go, I’m tired.”  He would say.

In 02, I started studying different real estate books, seminars, and meeting with mentors.  The less and less we hung out the more I was able to see how the little things that we did not have in common was not enough to keep our friendship together.  Whenever we hung-out it was draining to hear how negative he was, “Was I like this all the time for the past 2 years too!”

I soon stopped hanging out with Karl.  6 months later I bought my new 03 “fully equipped” Cadillac CTS.

IF YOU ARE JUST STARTING OUT, OR ARE SEASONED… You will grow much faster the more you surround yourself with positive, uplifting people. (im only 27 but luckly had great mentors and was able to see this early on.)

IF YOU DON’T MAKE THIS DECISION IT WILL BE MADE FOR YOU!  (either through Success or Failure!)

Happy Investing

-John Fedro